SUV, Okay!
Crossover, Okay!
But NO mini-vans will be allowed...........
Indeed! No minivans. Ever! Congrats on the twins!
Make it work ,man. You only live once, and you'll likely regret it. Heck, you have to do what you have to do. But there is always a way.
I am partial to manual transmission (I detest automatic, DCC, and paddles) so I am lmited oni choices, which are actually good-Golf R, Mini Cooper S Paceman/Coutryman All4, Subaru WRX/STI, or Ford Focus RS. The first will likely be my next car).
Anyway, getting off-topic. It's not like it's a $20,000 Ducati! Like the huge number of motorcycle categories out there as never before, there are wonderful new categories of cars blurring the lines between types like SUVs and Crossovers. I see so many behemoth vehicles like Tahoes, Suburbans out on the road driven by the most incompetent drivers. New Crossovers like the Honda HRV, Mini Cooper Countryman, etc are safe, roomy, fuel efficient, and well-rounded.
I'm not telling you what to do, but hey, just trying to be positive, and maybe, .just keep you among the Yamaha and R3 brotherhood.
Again, congrats on the twins! Wish I could buy it, add it to my Raven, and make it my race bike. Bike can't do it at the moment.

Good luck with everything!